In Part One, Life coach and Producer of the Reclaim Your Life video series, Zain Arcane explains the most important thing men can do to help themselves out of an abusive relationshit. You will learn why your current partner may be what Zain calls a HELLNARC, which is the female version of a male narcissist, of course both of which are highly skilled in dishing out the most horrendous emotional (and physical) pain. Learn a couple techniques to begin helping you make sense of where you’re at, and get you to the next step out of the nightmare.
Massiel Vargas/Leissam: Portrait of a Psychopath. Chilling real audio messages and hand made signs threatening to KILL anyone who touches me, by one of the stalkers. If you see this disturbed woman claiming to be a friend of mine, she most assuredly is NOT. Another alarming aspect to this is the fact that we never met, never shared physical space. What began as online acting and theatrical collaborations turned into an obsession for this person. Indeed, please use great caution when using social media. Someone who presents as a friend is sometimes a real life psychopath, and intends you and your family harm. Be smart and be safe.
In Victim To Badass #4, Show Host Zain Arcane welcomes Writer Anita Brown as they reveal the many types of emotional abuse that baiters and narcs attack their targets with. Zain explains: "Much of the abuse remains hidden in the form of gaslighting that can be hard to detect in texts and e-mails…someone you think is a supporter or friend could be showing you signs of abuse. You deserve the best, tune in to find out who is worthy of keeping in your space!”
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ZAIN ARCANE ANSWERS:
"First, let me say I am so sorry for your hurting heart right now. The supreme challenge we former targets and survivors have is coming to terms that a narc/baiter/abuser is indeed ‘evil’ and in that sense evil "won" when the narc first said hello. They entered the relationshit with no intention of doing all the things they promised us. Simply because they cannot offer what is not in them to give. It was all a cruel experiment to them…and that is how they are able to move on in apparent glee. Make no mistake though, the JUSTICE is in who they REALLY are….that smile they wear now will turn into the same abusive scowl with the new target, once their mask slips behind closed doors. Meanwhile, YOU and every survivor of narc abuse goes on to a fuller, more authentic life, equipped with NEW POWERFUL SKILLS in bullshit detection and able to eventually attract HEALTHY LOVE RELATIONSHIPS. Remember the monster for what they really are, and it becomes clear where the justice is. All narcs wind up alone, depressed, defeated, with nothing of lasting value to leave behind. A wasted life…and one they are doomed to repeat again the next time they come back. They are living the justice….they are a cursed thing."
Keeping no contact with the ex-narc is THE single most important part of your recovery once you’ve left an abusive relationship. Zain explains WHAT NC is, WHY we must keep it, and HOW to stay strong. Learn how to keep away from the toxic abuser once and for all!
thebucketwoman928 asked: First let me tell you thank you for your videos. I know you have heard this before, but I was in a horrible place until I saw your video about what life was like at the dinner table. I was regretting leaving my husband until I saw that. It was our life for almost a year. My five year old was exposed for less than a year and doesn't think he is a bad person. Your thoughts are appreciated.
Hi, I’m so glad you got out. My concern is always with the children of an abusive parent or guardian, because the kid is helpless in the face of an adult intent of being abusive. WE have to protect the kids… that’s OUR job. So I am really happy you are taking action and not letting guilt get in the way of doing what you know is right, and that is protecting your child from harm in the home. Really young kids don’t know who is evil or who is good when it comes to a father or mother figure. Society teaches them to ‘honor’ their parents, and to obey them. Which is wrong if that parent is not loving and respecting the child. I’m grateful my videos provided you that peace of mind, especially my Dinner Table vid. It’s tough being a good person. Because the bad ones (esp. narc partners) always try to take advantage and abuse them. One of my strongest desires in making these videos exposing narcissistic abuse is that it empowers women to take a stand for their kids and themselves. Your letter made my day. Thanks for sharing, and for helping spread the word about my work and my mission. ~Zain Arcane
Zain turns in a great read on a poem that got his attention in VTB. It’s about the bizarre world of narcissistic abuse. First broadcast on the VICTIM TO BADASS Radio Show Nov. 09, 2013…”a beautiful and haunting depiction of the harsh reality of falling into an abusive relationship with a narcissist.